In September 2020, a tragic accident in Kansas City took the life of a man who was full of charisma, joy & love. A lot of Michael’s love was for my cousin, Michele. As our family coped with that comet, several more impacted the clan.

Michele advised another cousin that "if I fucking can, you fucking can!" It was appropriate for the occasion. My sister said it needed to be a mantra we could use for many situations. We thought of a code & then I decided the format of "if-then" would work nicely.

If I fucking can (then) you fucking can.

The colors gold & red honor Michele & Michael's love of the Pittsburg State Gorillas & Kansas City Chiefs. Turquoise & purple are favorites of a bunch of family members.

If a conversation starts because of this "code", we can say to live fully; love, love, love; take the pictures; have the adventure; be an organ donor; swear if you need to & know that the person who is remembered never truly dies.